Ever since I became a parent over two years ago, I am constantly humbled by the every-day life of raising young children! For over 10 years now, I have been seeped in Montessori philosophy from my Montessori trainings, and I am breathing the tenets of Montessori everyday in my work at NNM. So naturally, I thought for sure I was going to follow the Montessori approach as a parent to a “T” when I had my own children! After only just these 2 years as a parent of 2 young children, I have now adopted the motto, “We are all trying our best!”
There were ideals that I had when I first became a parent: I would only use cloth-diapers, my child would only sleep on a floor bed, no high-chairs, no toys with batteries…and the list goes on! By the time my first daughter was 8-months old, we got a crib. When she was 10-months old, I gave up on cloth diapering. Trying to keep gifts of battery-operated toys away is constantly an uphill battle!
At first I felt torn or guilty that I was not doing “all the right things.” Then, as I journeyed on through the triumphs and tribulations of parenting, I had to give myself more leeway to find a balance that was “good enough.” There is an abundance of information out there for parents–articles, books, blogs, posts—that have an opinion on what is and is not good for your child’s development. And of course, my own true passion and love of Montessori’s philosophy gives me direction and guidance as a parent, but ultimately, there are things that I have to decide for myself about what is going to work for my family and for both of my individual and unique children.
I think we are all trying our best to find the balance of holding the values that we find most important to our families and letting some other ones go. There are definitely certain parenting approaches that I hold dear, which may be contradictory to another parent’s approach–but I know I am committing to it for a purpose that works for my family and children.
This article was a great example of how much parents can feel pressured by society and wondering if we’re doing “all the right things”–whatever that’s supposed to mean! What Should a 4-year-old Know
As a Montessori parent, I personally think you’re already on the right track by giving them the opportunity of a Montessori education which will foster not only your child’s intellectual growth, but her social and emotional development as well. Our children are developing qualities such as confidence, resilience and respect through their every-day work in the classrooms. As parents, our every-day work is filled with many challenging and successful moments that are strengthening such characteristics in us as adults as well (so long as we are in the right mind-set to see it that way)!
On those tougher days of parenting, remind yourself, “We are all trying our best!”